Advice for Mothers Having Their Second Child
Congratulations on your upcoming arrival! Here are 7 tips for mothers who are about to have their second child:
Involve your first child in the process: Your first child may feel left out or neglected when the new baby arrives, so it's important to involve them in the process as much as possible. Let them help choose items for the baby, such as clothing or toys, and encourage them to talk to the baby while he or she is still in the womb. Start referring to your first child as the Big Brother or Big Sister to show them how important their new role is when talking about the new baby.
Set realistic expectations: Having a second child is different than having your first, so set realistic expectations for yourself and your family. Understand that there will be times when things feel overwhelming or chaotic, but that it's okay to ask for help and take a break when needed. In fact, make out a list of items that others can help with in the first 6 months after your baby arrives. Then, when freinds and family are asking what they can do, let them sign up for something on the list; Taking big brother to the park for a couple hours, bringing in dinner for the family (even if it's pizza), hiring a house cleaner for a day...
Prioritize self-care: As a mother of two, it's important to prioritize self-care to avoid feeling burnt out. This can be as simple as taking a few minutes to yourself each day, delegating tasks to your partner or other family members, or seeking professional help if needed. It's amazing what 30 minutes of uninterupted time can do for your sense of well being.
Don't compare your children: Every child is unique and develops at their own pace, so try not to compare your children to each other or to other children. Focus on each child's individual strengths and celebrate their accomplishments accordingly.
Don't expect Breastfeeding Success or Difficulties based on your first child's history. Talk to your lactation consultant in advance to make sure you are prepared for continued success or to make plans, if possible, to avoid any previous challenges to breastfeeding.
Don't forget pictures & baby books! Cell phones make photo taking much more convenient than when we were having children. If you have professional portraits done with your first child, try to make plans to have them done again with your second child. Same goes with baby books. Set a weekly reminder to update them.
Enjoy the moment: Finally, remember to enjoy the moment! Your children will only be this age once, so savor the special moments and cherish the memories you make together as a family.